From Overwhelmed to Empowered: Practical Tips for Moms

Over the past eight years, I’ve learned that being a mom is one of the toughest jobs I’ve ever had. The daily challenges can be both overwhelming and demanding. From morning until night, we juggle work responsibilities, household chores, our own thoughts and feelings, and the needs of our children, all while providing comfort and support. The constant multitasking and problem-solving can feel never-ending.

Despite these hurdles, I’m continually amazed by the resilience and strength of moms. Balancing countless responsibilities with love and dedication is no small feat.  The emotional and physical demands of nurturing a family can be draining, making it difficult to maintain our own sense of identity and fulfillment.

As both a mom and a licensed mental health therapist, I’ve observed how easy it is to neglect self-care due to the pressures of daily life.

Here are five common reasons why moms often neglect self-care:

1. Responsibilities: With a full schedule of parenting duties, work commitments, and household chores, self-care often takes a backseat. The constant juggling act makes it hard to find time for oneself.
2. Guilt: Many moms feel guilty about taking time for themselves, believing their focus should always be on their family. This misplaced sense of responsibility can lead to self-neglect.
3. Time: Busy routines and unexpected demands can make it seem like there’s no time for self-care. Even when opportunities arise, exhaustion may overshadow the motivation to engage in self-care activities.
4. Expectations: Societal norms often place high demands on mothers, creating pressure to be constantly available and involved. This can discourage moms from prioritizing their own needs.
5. Priorities: Some moms undervalue self-care, viewing it as a luxury or as selfish. They might prioritize tasks they perceive as more urgent, overlooking the essential need for personal well-being.

Recognizing these challenges is the first step toward integrating self-care into a busy life. Overcoming the feeling of selfishness and embracing genuine self-care can lead to greater fulfillment, joy, and resilience.

Here are five ways to begin making this shift:

1. Reframe Self-Care: Understand that self-care is essential for your well-being and effectiveness as a mom. By taking care of yourself, you’re better equipped to handle the demands of parenting and create a positive, nurturing environment. Self-care is an investment in your ability to give your best, not an act of selfishness.
2. Set Clear Boundaries: Communicate your needs and establish boundaries to protect your self-care time. Let your family know that setting aside time for yourself is crucial for your health and happiness. This fosters a supportive environment where self-care is respected and valued.
3. Involve Your Family: Engage your family in self-care activities. Plan family activities that include time for relaxation or exercise together. By involving them, you not only address your own needs but also model the importance of self-care and balance for your children.
4. Set Realistic Expectations: Accept that not everything will go as planned. By setting achievable goals and being flexible with your expectations, you reduce stress and frustration, helping you maintain patience in challenging moments.
5. Schedule It In: Allocate time for self-care each day, whether it’s 10 minutes or an hour. Scheduling helps prioritize self-care, allowing you to recharge and better handle the stresses of motherhood. Engage in activities that rejuvenate you, such as a hobby, exercise, or a quiet moment alone.

Remember, engaging in consistent self-care is a journey, not a destination. Acknowledge your efforts each day and be intentional. Investing in yourself not only benefits you but also enhances the well-being of your entire family.

Live, Work and Relate Well!

Kristen Linaman-Weleba, LPC

P.S. I am available for counseling via telehealth on Tuesdays and Wednesdays. Please call the Relational Advantage office at 520-219-8377 for more information or to make an appointment.